Friday, January 22, 2010

A sweet spot.

Sometimes they are in a sweet spot, long stretches where there's just sweetness. He asking her to read to him, pulling her hand to take her in their room, wanting her to do something with him over anyone else. She being so attentive to his needs, offering to read a digger book, turning his five minute show on over and over again, getting a pillow and blanket to snuggle together.

Makes me wonder if, at this young age, there were sweet spots between my brother and I. I remember lots and lots of years of bickering, taunting him by crossing the invisible line in the backseat of the car, my mom warning me he'd be bigger than me one day (in case you don't know him, he's got ten inches on me), and then becoming friends as adults.

How do you make sure they stay friends? How do you make sure they know that friends come and go but siblings are yours forever?

7 comments:

Megan said...

I don't know the answers to your questions except that maybe it's just innate. I remember bickering with my baby bro too. Lots. And being told the same about how he would outgrow me (same deal that he is way taller, duh!) and becoming so close when we both grew up. We have names for each other that only we get away with, that's always been that way. I also remember times when we were having fun and being good to each other. So I'm guessing it's something siblings just do. I love this post. What is it with the older having to sit behind the younger? Jamie insists on doing this and Jacob is almost bigger than she is already!

Samantha said...

Sigh. I feel exactly the same way.

Susie said...

Definitely a sweet spot! She seems so in tune to him.

Cathy Bolander said...

Such a sweet pic & post. I wonder the same thing because all my boys are so close right now. I don't ever want them to fight. My sisters & I are 4 1/2 years apart each & fought basically nonstop growing up because we were so different. Now we are best friends, talk everyday & hang out at least 4-5 days a week. So I guess the answer is that no matter how much they fight growing up as long as we try to help foster a healthy relationship they will stay close & hopefully only remember the sweet times.

Marie said...

I think and worry about that all the time. I really want them to enjoy each other. I want them to be friends and siblings. Not just siblings. I am so afraid of a relationship where they only call on holidays. But I try every day to create a friendship and an understanding. Just hope it works.

pakosta said...

I tell my girls every day, whenever there is a fight, and when there's a sweet moment, "you are so blessed and lucky to havey our best friend with you, aren't you?" and it's really starting to rub off. I just did a post about this yesterday!!!
what a CUTE Picture jj! so touching! Just always remind them that they are friends for life, tell them they have each other to talk to, but I do know that siblings are close and have a bond even when they don't like each other all the time, they still are there for each other no matter what! Lots of LOVE! tara

Norina said...

Well you got the social worker in me going, I honestly think it has a lot to do with the parenting; the tone you set, the socialization between the two that is encouraged...not to say everyone doesn't fight sometimes, even go in phases but I don't think you have a thing to worry about, because you and Ron are such awesome parents, they will always be "friends". :)